In today's world of the shortcut text language we can all become an abbreviated version of what we once were. However, some words are more important to verbalize in their full glory. I remember a time, not too long ago, when I was talking to my husband and pulled a "stop short" with the words, "I love you." After I hung up I realized that my greeting and salutation had lost its luster. As I reflected back on our short phone conversation, our daily after work, "Honey I am on my way/How was your day?" phone call, my heart revealed that my "Love ya, guess what happened to me" intro and "Love ya, gotta let you go," closing did not reflect quite the passion I have for my better half.
Now, the phrase "Love Ya!" is not a sin, the last time I checked, but God is concerned with the motive behind the phrase. During my moment, of conversational revelation, I knew in my heart that I had verbalized, through my "Love Ya!", that I was just "phoning in" our regular phone call and moving on to the so called "more important stuff". As soon as I hung up the Lord spoke to me, in my heart, gently reminding me that expressing my love, especially to my husband, IS the important stuff.
God knows that we have big fish to fry and that conversations need to go beyond compliments and heart filled sentiments. But, He has also made it clear that the moment we treat our relationships like little fish is when the big fish begin to swallow us. God teaches us to clothe ourselves with compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness, and patience, (Col. 3: 13). Then he goes on to tell us the importance of putting on love, (Col. 3:14) and explains that by doing so that we become bonded in unison. I love this chapter, because God is outlining the plans and benefits that He has for our relationships, more specifically our most intimate ones.
Does my husband know how I feel about him? I am sure that he does, but by slowing down and simply saying "I love you," with each word I am reminding myself how I feel about him.
Whether in marriage, or other important relationships our "I loves yous" are not just representing us, but they are also an avenue that God uses to love on His precious children individually. As a "A Work In Progress" it is critical that we remind ourselves that the "I" in “I love you” messages are precious to both parties hearing it because we are taking the time to identify the receiver as someone worthy of acknowledgement.
"A new commandment that I give to you, that you love one another; as I have loved you, that you also love one another."
(John 13:34 NKJV)